How I Can Help My Partner After an Abortion
How I Can Help My Partner After an Abortion

After much research and soul-searching, your partner decided that this was not the time to continue her pregnancy, and she had an abortion. Even if she was confident about her abortion choice, you see that her recovery is not easy. You are going through your own process of coping with the abortion, and you still compassionately wonder how you can help your partner.

The first step is to understand what she is going through, so keep reading to learn more about her experience and practical ways to help.

How Your Partner Might Feel After an Abortion

Immediately following a surgical abortion or medical abortion, your partner may feel a sense of relief together with uncomfortable physical symptoms. As time goes on, emotional difficulties may set in. Here is what you can expect your partner to feel soon after a medical or surgical abortion:

  • Pain: Cramping after abortion is normal because it helps the uterus return to its pre-pregnancy size. Cramping can last for one to two weeks.
  • Nausea: Nausea and diarrhea are common after an abortion.
  • Bleeding: It’s normal for your partner to pass small clots and bleed for one to two weeks after the abortion. She may experience spotting for longer.
  • Tiredness: Your partner has been through much physically and emotionally after an abortion, contributing to fatigue that can last a few days.
  • Emotional highs and lows: Your partner may feel a complicated combination of relief and sadness. This can be partly due to the sharp hormonal drop that occurs after an abortion. If she had a medical abortion at home and could visualize the pregnancy, that can also contribute.

Some partners may also suffer from long-term effects if they had abortion complications. Post Abortion Stress Syndrome (PASS) is a common syndrome that affects both women and men who have been affected by an abortion, and help is available.

Now that we have discussed how your partner might be feeling after an abortion, you might be wondering how you can help.

Ways You Can Help Your Partner After an Abortion

If there is a time when your partner needs to feel safely cared for, it is now — after her abortion. Here are examples of how you can help:

1. Offer practical support

  • Ask what kind of help is most supportive for her.
  • Ask if she wants to be alone or prefers your company.
  • Offer pain medication, a heating pad, and extra pillows to increase her comfort.
  • Bring her food and water.
  • If there are other children, arrange care for them so you can be available for her.
  • Run errands as needed.
  • Bring her to follow-up appointments.
  • Watch for signs of complications needing medical attention.

2. Offer emotional support

  • Be emotionally present.
  • Do something special for her or with her (give a gift or do something she loves).
  • Ask her how she is feeling.
  • Listen actively.
  • Be sensitive to her experience and patient with the healing process.
  • Watch for signs that she needs professional mental health support.
  • Willow Women’s Center Can Help

Willow Womens Center offers no-cost medical services if you and your partner are facing an unexpected pregnancy or considering abortion. Reach out online or call 608-312-2025 today for your confidential appointment and get the answers you deserve.


Are There Risks to Taking the RU486 Pill?

Finding out you are unexpectedly pregnant is scary, and a flurry of questions flood your thoughts. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, it is common to feel as though your world is crashing down around you.

You have tough decisions to make, ranging from where to turn for the help you need and whether or not you will continue your pregnancy. It is critical to thoroughly explore all pregnancy options available to you, which usually include parenting, adoption, and abortion, depending on how far along you are. As you gather facts about abortion, it is important to understand each procedure as well as its risks.

If it has been ten weeks or less since your last period, medical abortion might be an option for you. In this article, we will answer the question, “Are there risks to taking the RU-486 pill?” In short, all procedures and medications come with side effects and risks, including the RU-486 pill. Read on to learn more about medical abortion, RU-486, and potential risks.

What You Should Know About Medical Abortion

The RU-486 pill, also called mifepristone, is used for medical abortions, and it is one of the two medications used together that end pregnancies at home without surgery or anesthesia. The two drugs used in medical abortions are mifepristone (RU-486) and misoprostol. They can be used up to ten weeks of pregnancy.

During a medical abortion, you typically take the first medication, RU-486 (mifepristone), in a healthcare setting. Mifepristone blocks progesterone, which is required for the embryo to stay attached to the uterine lining.

Approximately 24–48 hours after taking the first set of pills, you will take the second medication, misoprostol, at home. That produces contractions (heavy cramps) to expel the pregnancy from your uterus.

Contractions and bleeding usually begin 2–4 hours after taking the second medication. It can take several hours for your body to expel the pregnancy. During that time, you can anticipate to:

  • See large clots – the size of a lemon
  • Feel nauseated or experience vomiting
  • Have diarrhea
  • Have a low-grade fever and chills
  • See the expelled fetus if you are more than eight weeks pregnant

The abortion itself can take as long as several days to occur and is usually followed by up to three weeks of bleeding or spotting. If you were given antibiotics, it is critical that you take them all as directed and return to your doctor or clinic for a follow-up visit two weeks later. At this appointment, the doctor can verify that the pregnancy was ended and make sure there are no other medical complications such as an incomplete abortion or infection.

After a medical abortion, you should seek immediate medical attention if you experience the following symptoms:

  • Heavy bleeding (soaking two or more pads per hour or more than 12 hours in a row)
  • Passing blood clots larger than the size of a lemon for more than two hours
  • Severe abdominal or back pain
  • A fever of 100.4 or higher
  • Vomiting for more than 6 hours
  • Diarrhea for more than 24 hours
  • Vaginal discharge that smells bad

Risks Associated With RU-486

As we discussed above, all medications have risks, and there are possible risks to taking the RU 486 pill as well, including:

  • Incomplete abortion – An incomplete abortion means the pregnancy is still in place and did not respond to the drugs. Heavy bleeding, hemorrhage, a drop in blood pressure, and anemia could happen as a result. If this happens, a surgical abortion is required because of the failure to complete the abortion medically. If you do not follow-up with a surgical abortion, the pregnancy could continue.
  • Damage to the uterus – Rupturing or tearing of the uterus has been reported when the RU-486 pill has been used after the eighth week of pregnancy. This damage can cause severe bleeding, death, or require a hysterectomy.
  • Infection and septic shock – The risks of infection and septic shock are potentially life-threatening after a medical abortion. Sepsis is a medical emergency that occurs when an infection enters your bloodstream. The most common causes of septic shock after medical abortion are pregnancy tissue remaining in the uterus and uterine infection.
  • Severe pain – The misoprostol medication used in combination with RU-486 causes uterine cramping to expel the pregnancy, which can cause severe pain. The majority of women experience this pain.

Can I Take RU-486?  

Your healthcare provider is the only one who can tell you if you can take RU-486 after examining you. Yet, Mayo Clinic discusses several situations where you cannot take RU-486 for a medical abortion, including if:

  1. Your pregnancy is too far along. If your last period was more than ten weeks ago, you cannot take RU-486.
  •  You have an intrauterine device (IUD) still in place.
  • You have a pregnancy outside of your uterus (ectopic pregnancy).
  • You have certain medical conditions, including bleeding disorders, heart or blood vessel diseases, severe liver, kidney, lung disease, or an uncontrolled seizure disorder.
  • You take a blood thinner or steroid medications.
  • You do not have access to follow-up care or emergency care.
  • You have an allergy to the medications used.

If you are not a candidate for taking RU-486, your healthcare provider may recommend a surgical abortion instead.

Visit Us for a No-Cost Pregnancy Test

At Willow Womens Center, we understand how difficult it is to face an unplanned pregnancy. Our compassionate advocates and licensed medical professionals are here to help you through this time in your life.

At our clinic, we can offer you a no-cost, medical-grade pregnancy test to confirm your at-home results and a no-cost ultrasound, so you will know how far along you are and if your pregnancy is viable. Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) screening may also be offered at no cost. This is an important part of the appointment, especially if you are considering an abortion.

We believe in supporting you, empowering you, giving you the critical information you need, and answering your questions. We want to make sure you have everything you need to make the best decision for you and your future.

Let us be your first step. We invite you to make an appointment today to see us. Your health and well-being come first.


Where Can I Get an Abortion Pill?
where can I get an abortion pill

An unplanned pregnancy starts you on an unexpected journey that you hoped you would never have to take. There is nothing easy about the process of deciding to have an abortion.

Your mind is flooded with questions.

You doubt one minute and feel confident the next.

You gather information, weigh your options, and come to the best choice for you.

The decision to have an abortion is never made lightly, but sometimes women are not given all the information they need, leading to regret down the road. Empower yourself with all the facts you deserve by getting the answers to as many questions as you need to ask to feel that you are equipped to make a confident decision.

Confusion between the morning-after pill and the abortion pill is widespread, so we will break it down for clarity. We will also answer a common question we are asked, which is, “Where can I get the abortion pill?” Read on to learn more.

The Morning-After Pill 

The morning-after pill is also called Levonorgestrel or Plan-B. It can cause an abortion by preventing a fertilized egg from implanting into the uterine wall, but it is not the abortion pill.

The name can be misleading – you don’t have to wait until the morning after unprotected sex; you can take it right afterward. The morning-after pill is most effective the sooner you take it, but it should be taken within 72 hours after unprotected sex. It should not be used as a routine birth control method because it contains high doses of hormones and comes with risks.

The morning-after pill works differently depending on when it is taken during your cycle. It works in one of three ways:

  1. It may delay or prevent ovulation.
  2. It may alter the lining of the uterus, which prevents implantation of a fertilized egg.
  3. Or it may prevent the fertilization process.

It is important to understand that the morning-after pill does not work if the fertilized egg has already implanted in the uterus. It does not stop the development of a fetus. That is, if you are already pregnant, this medication won’t work. The morning-after pill is most easily accessible because it is readily available at most pharmacies.

Abortion Pill

Also known as RU-486, the abortion pill is taken when pregnancy has already occurred. It induces a medical abortion up to ten weeks after the first day of your last period. The name, abortion pill, is misleading as it is actually a combination of two different medications, mifepristone and misoprostol, which are taken about a day apart. Mifepristone, the first medication, is taken at a clinic. It blocks progesterone to end the pregnancy. The second medication, misoprostol, is taken up to 48 hours later at home and causes intense contractions to expel the pregnancy from your uterus.

You can expect to experience heavy cramping, bleeding, nausea, diarrhea, and other symptoms during the abortion. Risks can include damage to the uterus, pregnancy tissue left behind (incomplete abortion), infection and sepsis, severe pain, and in rare cases, death.

It is critical to make an appointment for a medical exam, which includes a detailed medical history, lab work, and an ultrasound exam to confirm you have a viable pregnancy. Lastly, a sexually transmitted infection (STI) test is crucial to prevent pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) and long-term complications.

Where Can I Get the Abortion Pill?

Until recently, you could only access a medical abortion through a medical doctor. But now new and risky options have become available. These unsafe options include obtaining the abortion pill medications over the internet or through telehealth visits online.

According to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA), it is illegal to order mifepristone over the internet. It is not available in retail pharmacies. You can only legally obtain it in healthcare settings, specifically clinics, medical offices, and hospitals, by or under the supervision of a certified prescriber.

You might be wondering what is so bad about the two alternate options to obtaining the abortion pill when they seem so convenient. The perceived convenience is not worth risking your life by ordering the abortion pill online or getting them through an online medical visit. There are many reasons why it is so dangerous to your health and potentially life-threatening.

  • If you experience an incomplete abortion without follow-up care, it will lead to serious, even life-threatening complications.
  • If you have an ectopic pregnancy, it is a medical emergency, but there is no way of knowing with an online physician visit. The abortion pill won’t help an ectopic pregnancy.
  • If you take the abortion pill while you have an undiagnosed and untreated sexually transmitted infection, it could lead to pelvic inflammatory disease or death.
  • Medications ordered online are not regulated by the FDA.

What Is Your Next Step?

If you are considering a medical abortion, start by making an appointment at Willow Womens Center. Our caring team will try to answer all your questions to equip you with the information you need to make good decisions on how to proceed.

We will determine if you have a viable pregnancy and explain everything you need to know about abortion procedures and risks. We will also tell you how far along you are and which options are available to you. Since most STIs are symptomless for women, we also offer testing for gonorrhea and chlamydia with a simple urine test. An undiagnosed STI can lead to PID and other medical and reproductive problems. If your test is positive, we can also refer you for treatment with medication.  

You are not alone. Our licensed healthcare professionals at Willow Womens Center are passionate about empowering women like you who face unexpected pregnancies. We can walk you through the entire process, one step at a time. We know this is not an easy decision, and we are available to compassionately walk with you through each step so you can make a confident decision that is right for you. For your confidential, no-cost appointment, give us a call today at 608-312-2025.


Real Answers About Abortion Questions

When you find out you’re unexpectedly pregnant, it’s a really chaotic, confusing, and emotional time. You might not know who to talk to, where to turn, or what to do. Once the haze clears a bit and you start processing what is happening, it’s not unusual to seek real answers about abortion questions. 

There are far more questions than we can possibly answer here, and the questions each person asks will vary depending on their situation, age, future plans, dreams, and more. Below are the most common questions women ask. If you have any that are not addressed here, we are always available to provide answers at Willow Womens Center

Questions About Abortion 

Q: What is abortion? 

A: Abortion is the termination of pregnancy using either pills or surgery. 

Q: Is abortion safe? 

A: According to the Wisconsin Dept. of Health Services, “An abortion is a medical procedure that always involves risk to the woman. At or prior to eight weeks after the first day of the last normal menstrual period is considered the safest time for a woman to have an abortion. The complication rate doubles with each two-week period after that time.” 

Q: Who are the women that have abortions? 

A: They come from all backgrounds, including race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, and religion.

Q: Are there alternatives to abortion? 

A: Yes, adoption and parenting are your other choices. Both involve taking the pregnancy to full term. Adoption means you will not do the parenting yourself, while parenting means you will take on that responsibility. 

Q: Where are abortions performed? 

A: They can be performed in doctor’s offices, hospitals, and non-specialized clinics, but the majority are done in clinics that exist for only that purpose. 

Q: Where can I get an abortion? 

A: Abortion is legal in all 50 states, but the nearest clinic to you could be quite a distance away. Some states only have one provider. 

Q: What is medication abortion? 

Medication abortion is also known as the abortion pill, a combination of two pills taken separately. This procedure is done for women up to 10 weeks pregnant. The first pill blocks progesterone in your body. Two days later you will take the second pill. You will make a final visit a couple of weeks later to the clinic to make sure the abortion was completed.

Q: What is medical abortion? 

A: Two primary procedures are done, depending on gestational age. Aspiration can be done within seven weeks and uses dilators and a suction tube. Suction Curettage is most commonly done, between six and 14 weeks. Again, this uses dilators and a suction machine. 

Let Us Answer Your Other Questions 

At Willow Womens Center, we are here for you. Make an appointment to come in and let us give you a no-cost pregnancy test to confirm your at home results because sometimes those tests are wrong. After that, we will sit down with you, answer your questions, and give you the information you need to make a confident decision for your future.


Why an Abortion is Not a Yes or No Decision

There are a lot of things in this world that are black and white, but abortion is not one of them. Your decision about your pregnancy is one that no one can make for you, although we know there are plenty of women who are pressured towards either outcome by those around them. We don’t want to be part of a world that says there is only one way to handle pregnancy because we know there are hundreds of emotions involved in this delicate situation. You have options, you have choices – make the one that is right for YOU.

What If I’m Not Sure

We see this a lot because pregnancy tests are confusing, and they aren’t always conclusive. There are several reasons for a false reading of a pregnancy test including medical conditions, the test was taken too soon, or the test was expired. All these reasons can lead to a false reading which may mislead you into thinking that you are pregnant or that you are not. Sometimes women wait so long to take a test because they don’t want to know, they don’t want it to be true. Others don’t take a test because they don’t feel any symptoms and don’t think about it. There are dozens of scenarios that may lead you to suspect or assume you could pregnant but how can you be certain?

How to Be Sure

A pregnancy test does not confirm a viable pregnancy. We say ‘viable pregnancy’ because up to 30% of pregnancies naturally terminate on their own. There are many reasons a pregnancy might not be viable. A viable pregnancy is defined as one that has a reasonable chance of a baby making it to full term. Pregnancy is extremely complicated and at every stage, there are plenty of chances for something to go wrong, which is why only an ultrasound can confirm a viable pregnancy.

Assessing Your Pregnancy

During your no-cost appointment at Willow Womens Center, after you have a positive pregnancy test, you will be offered an ultrasound. A licensed medical professional will verify if you are indeed pregnant and if that pregnancy is viable. This test also allows the staff member to the age of your pregnancy which will help you as you explore all legal abortion and pregnancy options available to you. Without this information, you may make a choice that isn’t made in confidence. In fact, some abortion clinics don’t confirm pregnancy before performing an abortion which means they do something physically and emotionally that might be entirely unnecessary. Arming yourself with information is extremely important when you have a vital decision to make.

At Willow Womens Center, you’ll be welcomed with open arms into a facility that offers you a medical-grade pregnancy test, an ultrasound, and a limited STI test to provide you with all the vital information you need to make the best decision for you. We want to help ensure you feel knowledgeable about what options you have and empower you to make the decision in a safe space. To schedule your no-cost appointment today, give us a call or visit our appointment page today. No matter what you face, you won’t be alone at Willow Womens Center.