How To Tell Your Partner About an Unexpected Pregnancy

The chances of needing to tell a partner about an unexpected pregnancy at some point are pretty high when you consider that nearly half of all pregnancies in the United States are unintended. Even if you have a healthy relationship, it is common to feel a little nervous about telling your spouse/partner that you are pregnant when that wasn’t part of your plans right now.

So, how exactly do you tell them about an unexpected pregnancy? This article will discuss what you can do to make that conversation flow a little easier.

Timing Matters

When you tell your spouse/partner about an unexpected pregnancy, timing matters. Choose to share the news when you have plenty of time to talk or simply can spend time together afterward to process your thoughts and feelings. In other words, telling them that you are unexpectedly pregnant just before you both leave for work would not be ideal.

If either of you is significantly preoccupied or stressed, it may be best to wait. Talking about an unexpected pregnancy just after an argument or before an important job interview could start this journey off on the wrong foot.

Another aspect of timing is to tell your spouse/partner soon after you discover that you are pregnant. This way, you haven’t already spent a great deal of time moving through the phases of coping with an unexpected pregnancy while he is just getting started in the first phase of shock.

Where To Tell Your Spouse/Partner About an Unexpected Pregnancy

In-person and in the comfort of your own space is the ideal place to tell your spouse/partner about an unexpected pregnancy. This will give them a chance to respond honestly, and you can talk freely in a private setting compared to out in public. Showing your partner the positive pregnancy test helps to alleviate his shock, and you probably wouldn’t want to pull that test strip out at your local coffee shop.

Unless your spouse/partner is away for an extended period of time, such as military deployment, definitely do not tell him about an unexpected pregnancy by phone or text message. Next, we’ll discuss what to say because words matter.

How To Tell Your Spouse/Partner About an Unexpected Pregnancy – Choosing Your Words

Before you talk with your spouse/partner, it is critical to remind yourself that you did not get pregnant by yourself. An unexpected pregnancy is not something you need to walk on eggshells about or carry guilt or shame over. Once your mindset is ready, you can think about the words to use when you tell them that you are pregnant.

You are not responsible for your partner’s response to an unexpected pregnancy, but you can choose words that may help set the tone for your conversation about it. For example, consider the difference between hearing, “I have terrible news,” and “My period is late, so I took a pregnancy test today and found out we are pregnant.”

Approach talking with your partner about an unplanned pregnancy with the confidence that this is an issue you can tackle together. Use words that are natural to you but think ahead of time about how you want to phrase them directly and positively.  For example, say, “We are pregnant” rather than “I’m pregnant,” because this did not happen all by yourself.

Give Your Spouse/Partner Space and Time to Process the News

If you are not looking at the pregnancy test results for the first time together, your partner will be in the difficult position of having to react to the news in front of you, and that’s not easy. He may feel compelled to filter his reaction so he does not hurt your feelings, or he may react with unfiltered honesty – and that can be painful if he is initially unhappy about the pregnancy. However, this is not a free pass to treat you disrespectfully, which is never okay.

The moment just after telling your spouse/partner about an unplanned pregnancy is the time to “hold space” for him. Holding space means he has a chance to experience his thoughts without pressure to discuss them right away. He may need to process the news on his own for a bit before coming together to discuss it with you. Don’t take his first reaction personally if it is negative – he is most likely responding to his fears rather than you.

Like you, your spouse/partner will move through many different responses as he comes to grip with the news of a pregnancy neither of you saw coming. Common responses men have to an unexpected pregnancy include:

  • Happiness
  • Shock
  • Fear
  • Denial
  • Anger

Take One Step at a Time

There is no denying that difficult conversations come with the territory of an unexpected pregnancy. Take one step at a time, and do not make any permanent decisions while your emotions are high or conflicted.

Once you have moved beyond the initial shock, you can move on to discuss your feelings about topics ranging from your hopes, dreams, and goals to your fears and next practical steps to making a pregnancy decision. It is essential to take one step at a time as you share honestly about how you feel about your pregnancy options, including parenting, adoption, and abortion.

  • Step 1 – Confirm your pregnancy

Your first step is to confirm how far along you are in your pregnancy and verify that your pregnancy is viable. A viable pregnancy is one that is likely to carry to term successfully rather than end in miscarriage. You can get these answers only by a pregnancy ultrasound performed by your healthcare provider or at an unbiased pregnancy center such as Willow Womens Center.

  • Step 2 – Weigh your options and make your decision

After you know you have a viable pregnancy and how far along you are, talk with an experienced pregnancy advocate who can review your options with you and your partner. The licensed healthcare professionals at Willow Womens Center can provide the information you need about parenting, adoption, and abortion so that you can make a confident decision about your unexpected pregnancy. You will never feel rushed or pressured to make a pregnancy decision; instead, you will be empowered to make the best decision for you and your family.

Willow Womens Center Is Here for You

At Willow Womens Center, we understand how confusing an unplanned pregnancy can be. We compassionately provide confidential, no-cost services to help you make an informed decision about your unexpected pregnancy. Make an appointment at Willow Womens Center today.


When To Take the Morning-After Pill and When Not To
when to take the morning after pill and when not to

You have heard about the morning-after pill, but you feel that you need more information before you consider taking it. How does the morning-after pill work? Is it different from the abortion pill? What are the possible side effects? How do I know when to take the morning-after pill and when not to? These are common questions women ask, and you deserve accurate answers, which you will find here.

How Does the Morning-After Pill Work?

The morning-after pill is a high dose of the progestin hormone (levonorgestrel) that a woman can take to try to prevent pregnancy. A common brand name is Plan B One-Step. A woman might take it right after having had unprotected sex, missing multiple doses of birth control pills, or experiencing failed birth control such as a condom breaking.

The morning-after pill is different from the abortion pill. The abortion pill is used after a confirmed pregnancy has already occurred, but the morning-after pill prevents pregnancy from happening. The morning-after pill won’t cause an abortion once a fertilized egg has already implanted into the uterus.

According to Mayo Clinic, the morning-after pill works in one of three ways:

1. It can prevent ovulation.

Ovulation occurs each month around the middle of your menstrual cycle. It is when your ovary releases a mature egg. The main way the morning-after pill works is by preventing ovulation, an egg from releasing from the ovary.

2. It can prevent an egg from becoming fertilized.

Another way the morning-after pill works is by changing the movement of the released egg or sperm, which can prevent fertilization.

3. It can prevent a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus.

If fertilization has already occurred, it is possible that the morning-after pill can prevent the fertilized egg from implanting in the uterine lining. This is the least common way the morning-after pill works.

When To Take the Morning-After Pill and When Not To

The morning-after pill is available at drug stores without age restriction, identification, or a prescription. Since guidance from a healthcare provider is not required either, it is common for women to have unanswered questions about when to take the morning-after pill and when not to take it. We will offer only general guidelines here. Please ask your pharmacist or doctor about specific questions you may have.

First, we will look at when you might consider taking the morning-after pill. As we discussed above, women take it when they have had unprotected sex or when birth control fails for any reason.

It is designed to be taken as soon as possible after sex – within 12 hours provides the highest chance of preventing pregnancy. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has approved the morning-after pill for up to 72 hours; however, research reveals it can prevent pregnancy, although less effectively, up to 120 hours after unprotected sex.

How effective is the morning-after pill? If it is taken within 24 hours, there is a 95% chance that it will prevent pregnancy. If it is taken within 72 hours, the effectiveness drops to about 75-89%. It is only 25% effective if five days have passed. The closer it is taken to the time of unprotected sex or failed contraception, the higher the chances that it will prevent pregnancy. Timing is important.

If you take the morning-after pill and discover you are pregnant, studies show that the medication does not harm the pregnancy if you choose to continue it. Research also indicates that if you take the morning-after pill while you are breastfeeding, it may decrease milk production. The pill’s hormones are passed through to breastmilk but don’t appear to cause harm to the development or health of the breastfeeding infant.

We have talked about when to take the morning-after pill. Are there situations where it would be less effective, or when should you not take the morning-after pill? Yes, do not take the morning-after pill if:

  • It has been more than 120 hours (5 days) since you had unprotected sex.
  • You know you are pregnant, or you think you might be pregnant.
  • You are experiencing unexplained spotting or pain, which could indicate an ectopic pregnancy (a medical emergency of a pregnancy outside of the uterus).
  • You have a hypersensitivity or allergy to its ingredients.
  • You are using it as a regular form of birth control.
  • You already took one dose. Doubling up the dose does not work better or lessen the chance of pregnancy.

The morning-after pill is less effective if:

  • You wait to take it. The chance of an unintended pregnancy increases as time passes after unprotected sex.
  • You take certain drugs or medications, such as barbiturates or St. John’s wort, that metabolize the progestin hormone.
  • You are overweight. There has been conflicting information about the morning-after pill being less effective if a woman has a BMI over 35.

What Are the Possible Side Effects of the Morning-After Pill?

Side effects of the morning-after pill typically don’t last more than a few days and can include:

  • Nausea or vomiting
  • Dizziness
  • Fatigue
  • Headache
  • Breast tenderness
  • Bleeding between periods or heavier menstrual bleeding
  • Lower abdominal pain or cramps

If you vomit within two hours of taking the morning-after pill, notify your healthcare provider for further instructions.

What If I Don’t Get My Period After Taking the Morning-After Pill?

If you took the morning-after pill and your period hasn’t started within three weeks, make an appointment for an evaluation to determine if the morning-after pill worked or not. Willow Womens Center offers confidential, medical-grade pregnancy testing at no cost to you.

If your pregnancy test is negative and your period still doesn’t start, we are here to repeat the pregnancy test for you – also at no cost.

If your pregnancy test is positive, our compassionate healthcare professionals will provide the information you need to make a decision about your pregnancy. We will offer you a no-cost ultrasound to determine if your pregnancy is viable. We know that knowledge is empowering. You will also be given information about each of your pregnancy options so you can make an informed decision about what is best for you.

If you think you might be pregnant, make an appointment at Willow Womens Center today, and receive the caring support you deserve.


Pregnancy Resources in South Beloit
Pregnancy Resources in South Beloit

Do you live in or near South Beloit, IL, and think you might be unexpectedly pregnant? Willow Womens Center is nearby to provide the compassionate support you need during this uncertain time.

No-cost Pregnancy Services

Willow Womens Center is an authentic medical clinic staffed by licensed medical professionals. We offer pregnancy services to you at no cost, including:

  • High-quality pregnancy testing

Even if you had a positive pregnancy test result at home, we will run another medical-grade pregnancy test for you so you can get the written verification needed for support services.

  • Pregnancy ultrasounds

It is vital to have an ultrasound even if you are considering abortion. An ultrasound provides critical information such as how far along you are and if your pregnancy is viable or not.

  • Unbiased and accurate information

We understand that only YOU can make the best decision for you personal circumstances, which is why we are passionate about equipping you with unbiased and accurate information about your pregnancy and your options. We want to empower you to make an informed decision.

  • Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) Testing

If your pregnancy test is positive, we provide testing for two common STIs: gonorrhea and chlamydia.

  • Community referrals

We want you to be connected to the community resources you need to be healthy and provided for. We will offer referral information for further testing or support services available in the community.

Our compassionate staff members will never judge you for being unexpectedly pregnant, for the choice you make about your pregnancy, or anything else. We care about you and strive to empower you to make a confident decision about your pregnancy.

Willow Womens Center is located in Beloit, WI, near Beloit Memorial Hospital and across the street from McDonalds at 2680 Prairie Avenue. Contact us today for your confidential appointment.

About South Beloit

Nestled along the scenic Turtle Creek and Rock River, the city of South Beloit, Illinois is located in Winnebago County and bordered to the north by Beloit, Wisconsin along the Illinois-Wisconsin state line.

Although South Beloit is only six square miles, it provides many riveting highlights to visitors ranging from outdoor recreation to shopping. Places of interest in South Beloit include:

  • Angela’s Attic

Angela’s Attic is a 35,000 square foot, family-owned and operated antique shop. They have over 100 dealers who sell unique antiques, collectibles, and memorabilia.

  • Blackhawk Farms Raceway

Blackhawk Farms Raceway is a fun place for racing enthusiasts. Amateur and professional drivers alike will be challenged along the nearly two-mile asphalt course, which incorporates seven turns. Spectators can be wowed by motorcycle, bicycle, go-cart, and sports car races on the weekends.

  • DC Estate Winery

DC Estate Winery is a beautiful vineyard, winery, and event venue, which is also a family-owned and operated business. Visitors feel like they are stepping into the hills of Tuscany with its magnificent views and warm, family hospitality.

  • Nature at The Confluence

Surrounded by the stunning Rock River, Turtle Creek, and Kelly Creek, Nature at The Confluence is an urban environmental center that opened in 2017 to connect people with nature.

  • Pearl Lake

Pearl Lake is a privately owned RV resort and lake that provides pristine aqua-colored water in which to scuba dive and swim.


Pregnancy Resources in Evansville
Pregnancy Resources in Evansville

If you feel unsure or scared due to an unplanned pregnancy, Willow Womens Center is here for you. We understand the shock and uncertainty you are facing and can help make sense of your next steps. We provide confidential pregnancy services at no cost so you can get the answers you deserve to make an informed decision for your future.

Pregnancy Resources in Evansville

It is not uncommon to feel helpless when you are unexpectedly pregnant. Yet, our compassionate, licensed healthcare professionals at Willow Womens Center are available to empower you with the information you need to be confident again. If you live in Evansville, we are just 35 minutes away in Beloit via WI 213 – N.

Our caring advocates can help you take one step at a time. Our services include:

  • Medical-grade pregnancy testing: Even if you already took a home pregnancy test and the results were positive, we will provide a medical-grade pregnancy test, which allows us to present you with written verification of your pregnancy.
  • Limited pregnancy ultrasound: The next step is a limited pregnancy ultrasound to confirm a viable pregnancy since a pregnancy test cannot do that, and to determine the age of the pregnancy.
  • Sexually transmitted infection (STI) testing: If your pregnancy test is positive, we also offer STI testing. An untreated STI can lead to you contracting an infection such as pelvic inflammatory disease, which can lead to reproductive system damage and infertility. (We currently offer this service to all residents of the Stateline area.)
  • Referrals: If your STI test is positive, we provide a prescription (Chlamydia) or referrals (Gonorrhea) so you can receive the proper treatment. We can also provide various community resources,which offer tangible assistance.

If you think you might be unexpectedly pregnant, contact Willow Womens Center today for your confidential appointment. YOU are our priority, and we believe you are capable of making the right choice for you and your future.

About Evansville

The historically-rich community of Evansville offers traditional Midwest small-town life advantages together with perks of big city living — all in a beautiful setting. Evansville is the fastest growing city in Rock County and is accessibly located near Janesville, Madison, and Beloit, Wisconsin.

One of the highlights of this friendly and family-oriented city is its brick-lined Main Street and nearly 300 historical sites within a five-block walking radius. According to the Wisconsin Historical Society, Evansville is home to “the finest collection of 1840s to 1915 architecture of any small town in Wisconsin.”

Anyone who enjoys the outdoors will appreciate Leonard-Leota Park, where visitors can canoe, fish, ice-skate, and even log-roll on stream-fed Lake Leota. In addition to water activities, the park also provides opportunities for baseball, softball, basketball, tennis, hiking, picnicking, and skating. There are four playground areas, as well as a swimming and lap pool on-site at the Veteran’s Memorial Aquatic Center.

Residents and visitors of Evansville have enjoyed dining at Night Owl Food & Spirits for over three decades. They build up the community with fun through trivia nights and their pool and dart leagues.

Just Beyond the Willow is one of Evansville’s newest specialty vintage boutiques that will delight shoppers looking for unique treasures. It showcases items from talented artisans and is a welcome addition to the thriving art community.


Pregnancy Resources in Rockton
Pregnancy Resources in Rockton

If you live in or near Rockton, IL, and think you might be unexpectedly pregnant, Willow Womens Center is available to help you through this uncertain time.  

Willow Womens Center is a real medical clinic staffed with caring, licensed healthcare professionals. You deserve to be empowered with accurate information, so you feel equipped to make a decision that is best for you about your unplanned pregnancy. We are here to provide just the information and services you need. 

Your autonomy and ability to make decisions for your life are highly valued here. You will never be pressured or judged about your pregnancy — or how you decide to move forward — because we believe that only you can make the right decision for you. To make that possible, we take a holistic approach to healthcare by supporting you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. 

We are also committed to eliminating barriers to your being able to access the pregnancy services you need. For that reason, you will never be charged at Willow Womens Center, and nothing will be submitted to your insurance. Services we provide without cost to you include: 

  • Medical grade pregnancy testing 
  • Written pregnancy verification  
  • Limited pregnancy ultrasound 
  • Unbiased education about your pregnancy options 
  • Sexually transmitted infection testing when indicated

At Willow Womens Center, you can rest assured that we will protect your privacy. We will not tell anyone when you call or visit because it is not only your right, but we also desire for you to feel safe here when you receive your pregnancy services.

We welcome you to contact us and make a confidential appointment today. 

About Rockton

The picturesque Village of Rockton, Illinois is located in northern Winnebago County about four miles over the Wisconsin-Illinois state line. Although it is a small community of approximately 8,000 residents, Rockton boasts unique beauty and opportunities, unlike many smaller towns.  

Rockton is situated on the Rock River, which provides abundant recreational opportunities for all. Visitors often bring binoculars to Jensen Forest Preserve, where they can hike, fish, and birdwatch. Bald eagles and osprey fish along the river at this preserve and it provides a fascinating nature experience.  

Rockton also provides opportunities on the Rock River for boating and kayaking enthusiasts to have fun, get exercise, and make memories on the water.  Avid fishers and novices alike take pleasure in their sport at the Rock River fishery in Rockton, which has over 80 species of fish; this location is best known for catfish, walleye, and crappie.  

A stroll through quaint downtown Rockton reveals high-quality opportunities for shopping and dining.  Antique shoppers will love the vast array of rare finds. After a day of perusing local shops, eateries like the Fatt Cat Café will satisfy and energize. The Fatt Cat Café is a charming farmhouse serving up savory burgers and their famous gourmet cupcakes for dessert.   

Diaryhäus can be the perfect way to end a day in Rockton. They make homemade ice cream and sorbets and even offer dairy-free options.