Unexpected Pregnancy Advice: Can I Get Through This?

“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” – Cayla Mills

You have plans for your life, and an unexpected pregnancy is not one of them. Yet, it is interesting how life has a way of surprising us with unforeseen detours that ultimately teach us more about our strength and resilience than if everything fell into place according to our plans. We can even experience great joy from life’s unexpected plans.

After the shock of learning you are pregnant wears off, you begin to think about what to do next. Like most women, you may ask yourself, “Can I get through this?” The short answer is, yes. Yes, you can get through this!

Here is some unexpected pregnancy advice to empower you and encourage you that you are going to be okay.

Keep Positive People Close

You already have fears going through your mind, so the last thing you need is people around you who are adding to your worries.  It is not mean to set boundaries to protect your emotional health right now. In fact, it is good for you.

Do not listen to anyone who has an agenda for you. This includes anyone who wants you to make one decision over another about your pregnancy. You are the one who will live with the outcome of whatever your choice is for the rest of your life, so your decision needs to be the choice that is best for you, not someone else. Be very strong about this. You can do it.

Choose Positive Thoughts

Neuroscience research repeatedly reveals that our thoughts create new neural pathways in our brains. In other words, our positive thoughts rewire our brains to think positively and stimulate positive feelings. In the same way, our negative thoughts rewire our brains to think negatively and stimulate negative feelings.

Choosing positive thoughts will help you cope with an unexpected pregnancy. So instead of asking yourself, “How could I let this happen?” or telling yourself that all your plans are ruined, ask yourself what you can do to stay healthy, and focus on the one next step.

Take One Step at a Time

Before you start thinking about next year or five years down the road, try to only think about your one next step. Our advice for this next step is to get unbiased and experienced pregnancy support. The trained staff at Willow Womens Center can help you understand your pregnancy options. We will provide you with all the facts you need to make a well-informed decision. After your visit – take a deep breath and allow yourself some time to process each possible option.

Pregnancy Support Is Available

If you choose to parent, Willow Womens Center offers a Parenting with Love and Logic® Program to equip you with the skills you need. Stay tuned to find out more about the new Mentoring Program we will be launching in the Spring 2020 – this will be geared toward women who are experiencing their first pregnancy. For those who choose abortion, Willow Womens Center offers a post-abortion recovery program if you are struggling with your emotions afterwards. If adoption is your best choice, we can help you connect with different adoption agencies!

Contact us online today for a confidential appointment or by calling 608-312-2025.


4 Tips for Navigating an Unexpected Pregnancy With Your Partner

There is no doubt about it; an unexpected pregnancy is challenging. Navigating a relationship through it can add another layer of difficulty. But you are not alone. Nearly 50% of all pregnancies are unintended, so many other couples have also navigated an unexpected pregnancy together.

Here are four tips to navigate an unexpected pregnancy with your partner.

Keep your perspective.

An unexpected pregnancy is not the end of the world – although at first it may seem that way! You may discover that you are stronger and more resourceful than you ever imagined. It may strengthen your relationship, or it may reveal the weaknesses. Either way, it is a good thing.

Also, you did not become pregnant by yourself, so do not allow anyone to assign sole responsibility to you or heap shame onto you. An unexpected pregnancy takes two people.

Tell your partner you are pregnant.

Telling your partner you are pregnant makes it all feel real – and scary. Some women tell their partner when they suspect they might be unexpectedly pregnant, and some wait until after their pregnancy is confirmed. This is your personal decision and also depends on your relationship.

It is never a good idea to communicate life-changing news by phone or text. Talk with your partner face-to-face during a calm time when you have a chance to process the news together. Instead of saying, “I’m pregnant,” say, “We’re pregnant.” This verbiage is a reminder to your partner that he had an active role in your pregnancy.

Your safety is a top priority, so if you believe your partner will react angrily, tell him about the pregnancy in a public place or with a trusted friend.

Give one another space to process the news.

Your partner will probably express a combination of surprise and shock just as you may have felt when you discovered you were pregnant. Try not to take his initial reaction personally if it is not as supportive as you hoped. Give him space to think about what you have said. Then begin to discuss your options.

Research all your options with an experienced options counselor.

You may have an initial thought about how you want to proceed with your unexpected pregnancy. Still, it is crucial to thoroughly research your pregnancy options with an experienced options counselor before you make a decision.

  • Parenting: Parenting is the choice to continue your pregnancy and raise your child. It is a decision that is separate from your relationship decision. There are many resources available to single parents.
  • Adoption: If you are not ready to be a parent, but you are also not comfortable with abortion, adoption can be the right choice for you. As the birth parent, you choose if your adoption is open, closed, or a combination. You can also select the adoptive family to raise your child in a manner with which you are most comfortable.
  • Abortion: Abortion ends the pregnancy. Medical and surgical abortions are options depending on your health and stage of pregnancy.

Ultimately, you are the one who will live with the outcome of the choice you make. Make your decision carefully, trust your gut, and resist anyone’s attempts to coerce you into one option over another.

Support is Available

Willow Womens Center provides confidential and compassionate pregnancy support. We have licensed medical professionals and experienced advocates to help you consider your options and assist you with some of the necessary resources you may need. Make an appointment today by calling 608-312-2025.


When Is an Ultrasound Most Beneficial?

You have just learned you are pregnant. You did not expect it, and you never thought you would be wrestling with such a big decision. Now what? Where do you start looking for resources and accurate, unbiased answers to your questions?

Willow Womens Center will help you find the answers to your questions. We will walk with you, one step at a time, amidst the tremendous stress of an unexpected pregnancy. One of those steps will be an ultrasound, provided by our licensed medical professionals at no cost.

What is an Ultrasound?

A pregnancy ultrasound is a safe medical test that creates images using sound waves. These images supply important facts to help you make informed decisions about an unexpected pregnancy.

Why an Ultrasound?

An ultrasound is an important follow-up after you have a positive pregnancy test because this test alone does not confirm a viable pregnancy. You can have a positive pregnancy test along with a nonviable pregnancy. A pregnancy test tells you that the hCG pregnancy hormone has been detected in your urine, but only an ultrasound will tell you if the pregnancy is viable or not. It is crucial for you to have this information before making a decision about an unexpected pregnancy.

An ultrasound also determines an accurate date of conception. That means you will know how far along you are in your pregnancy. If your pregnancy is unexpected, and you are considering abortion, this is critical information to have as you make an educated decision.

Ultrasound Timing

A pregnancy ultrasound should be performed no earlier than six weeks after the first day of your last period. This ensures that your pregnancy is far enough along to provide accurate and useful information.

Sometimes, even if you have a viable pregnancy, the ultrasound does not detect it. The most common reason for this is that it was too early to detect. When this happens, you can make an appointment in another week or two for a follow-up ultrasound.

There are several reasons why a viable pregnancy would not be detected on ultrasound:

  • The pregnancy is too early to detect
  • Conception occurred later in your menstrual cycle
  • Mistaken last missed period date
  • Larger abdomen
  • Tipped uterus

The last thing you need right now is to add to your stress by having to face more uncertainty and waiting after an inconclusive ultrasound. So, be sure to schedule your pregnancy ultrasound appointment at least six weeks or longer after the first day of your last period when the ultrasound is most beneficial.

Get Reliable Support

Call (608) 312-2025, and make an appointment with Willow Womens Center today. We understand that you can feel bombarded with information, facts and conflicting advice when you are facing an unexpected pregnancy. Our compassionate advocates and licensed medical professionals are available to answer your questions in a judgment-free environment. We are committed to empowering you, so you can feel good about making an informed decision.


How Do I Tell My Family About an Unplanned Pregnancy?

Discovering an unplanned or unexpected pregnancy can be overwhelming. It can be even more difficult and stressful when it comes time to tell your family. Before it’s time to tell them, there are a few things you should know to prepare for the task and the potential questions that may arise. 

Be Informed 

An at-home pregnancy test isn’t always accurate. There are a few reasons the test may be wrong such as it being expired, read after too long, or misread evaporation lines. If you’ve taken a pregnancy test and aren’t sure if the results are positive, it’s time for a second opinion. An ultrasound is the only way to accurately confirm a viable pregnancy. Viability in pregnancy means the fetus likely has the ability to survive outside the uterus. There are several different types of non-viable pregnancies that would require intervention of some sort (e.g. an ectopic pregnancy). Another reason an ultrasound is vital is the dating it provides. An ultrasound provides a gestational age of the pregnancy, which allows you to accurately determine all your abortion and pregnancy options. 

It’s also recommended you have one more test performed before you have an abortive procedure. A limited STI screening is very important because if you have an abortion with an unidentified and untreated STI it may lead to further complications. During an abortive procedure, the uterus is opened up, which allows infected cells to travel. This can cause the development of Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, which leads to a lifelong struggle with reproductive health and possible infertility. 

Be You

One of the most important things to remember when telling your family about an unplanned pregnancy is to remain true to yourself. Don’t try to make the decision someone else wants you to make or one that someone is suggesting you make. Continuing or terminating a pregnancy is your choice and only you can make the decision. We will never try to alter your choice because we truly believe your decision will impact you and it should be one you are confident to make. We don’t take our role lightly and will take as much time as you need to explain all the choices you have to ensure you understand and feel comfortable with your decision. 

Be Empowered 

All this information can be gathered at your no-cost appointment at Willow Womens Center. We provide a safe, comforting, and empowering environment for women from all walks of life facing this situation. Willow Womens Center is conveniently located in Beloit, Wisconsin and offers medical-grade services including a pregnancy test, ultrasound, and STI tests for the two most common STIs, gonorrhea and chlamydia. We want to ensure you are thoroughly informed to make the best decision for you and empowered to tell your family about your unplanned pregnancy and your plan of action. 

Telling family about an unplanned pregnancy can be daunting, and we want to make sure you don’t walk this road alone. Make your no-cost appointment today to learn more about the care and services you’ll receive from us.


Delavan Pregnancy Services

An Easy Drive from Delavan to Willow Womens Center

The City of Beloit, Wisconsin, is located on the Wisconsin/Illinois state line, just southwest of Delavan. Situated near Interstate 39/90 and the I-43 interchange, the Beloit Welcome Center greets over one million tourists each year. Proud of the strength, beauty, and diversity in their community, Beloit is known for its world-class riverfront, the charming downtown, historic residential neighborhoods, and Beloit College.

Less than half an hour’s drive from Delavan, Wisconsin, 100 miles from downtown Chicago, and 70 miles from Six Flags Great America, Beloit has a population of 36,773 (2017 census), and the greater Beloit area has over 110,000. Originally named New Albany in 1837 by its founder, Caleb Blodgett, it was renamed Beloit a year later and hoped it would be reminiscent of Detroit.

In the 1870s the area had become known for its cigars with more than 100 cigar makers calling it home. Beloit is also famous for the inventions of the speedometer, Korn Kurls, and John Francis Appleby’s twine binder used in the reaping of grain.

No-Cost Pregnancy Services Available

At Willow Womens Center, we offer residents of Delavan pregnancy services, including pre-abortion screening. This type of screening includes a pregnancy test, ultrasound, and testing for STD/STIs. Pregnancy tests and ultrasounds are administered by a licensed medical staff member. An STI screening is done for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea. Testing for other STIs is given a referral.

No matter what town you call home – Delavan, Beloit or somewhere in between – if you are dealing with an unexpected pregnancy, Willow Womens Center is here for you. We place a high value on confidentiality, a non-judgmental environment, and advocates and medical staff who are kind and compassionate.

Come for the Services, Information, Support

Pregnancy tests are most accurate when taken between 28 to 31 days after the first day of your last period and detect the hormone known as hCG. Even if you have taken a home test, we encourage you to come in for a no-cost test to confirm your results.

If your test is positive, an ultrasound can tell you how far along your pregnancy is and if it is viable. If the pregnancy develops outside the uterus, it is called an ectopic pregnancy and requires immediate medical care.

Ultrasounds are also part of pre-abortion screening. About 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage during the first three months of pregnancy. If a miscarriage is likely to happen, there is no point in having a procedure you may not need. We provide limited ultrasounds for you at no cost so you have all the relevant data you need to make an informed decision.

We also offer limited screening for STD/STIs, which often are present without any symptoms to alert you. If you have ever had unprotected sex, you could be at risk. If you test positive for an STD/STI, we will either give you a prescription or refer you for treatment. Testing and treating an active STD/STI helps to avoid a chronic and painful experience with pelvic inflammatory disease. This is also provided at no cost to you.

No matter whether you live in Beloit or Delavan, Willow Womens Center pregnancy services are right here for you. Call us to schedule an appointment and let our caring advocates and medical staff guide and support you during this difficult time.